Molly Dahl, M.Ed., CiPP
You’re going to have some hard days. You’ve probably already had your
fair share. A few harder than others. A few real doosies that brought
you to your knees and then back to your senses, back to what you’re
doing. Back to your Why.
You do come back to your senses. You have. You will again, when another
tricky day graces you with teaching moments and lessons to be learned.
In all the course of your time on this planet, you – overcoming the
struggles, the challenges, the heart aches and break, the fears – what
are the moments that keep you moving? What are the gems that give you
hope? Who are the people that light you up? Who light up your path?
Keep them close – both moments and people. They are your sustenance. The
can be a source of great strength. When things aren’t going so well,
remember the moments, the moments that keep you moving.
Look up. Look out. See the good. See the light.
It is so, so easy to get stuck in the negativity. In the divisiveness.
In the ugliness.
We forget that we are all just trying to do our best. Most days, all of
us are trying to be happy. We’re trying to avoid stress and anxiety and
failure. It doesn’t matter what side of any “line” he or she is on, you
are on, I am on, we all behave in ways that we think or feel will earn
us the reward or help us avoid the punishment. It’s kind of our human
nature, our untrained behavior patterns.
Next time you have a thought that the world is so messed up, stop.
Please take a closer look. But look for something good.
There’s a little bit of magic in the phrase “You get what you look for.”
What are you looking for?
Molly Dahl, M.Ed., CiPP
Who is she to determine how I feel? Who is he to ruin my day?
He is no one. She is no one. No one to decide how you feel and how you
move through your day.
You are in charge of you. No one has control over your emotions and your
behaviors unless you give them permission. The permission comes when you
get riled up by the mean something he said. You give permission when you
yell back at her as she wrongly accuses you of what ever it is you “Did.
We make choices all day long. All day. Lots of choices. Be aware of how
you chose to respond. Or react.
Before you respond, chose to pause. Chose to take a deep breath and to
gain a little clarity. Consider who it is you want to be. Then chose to
speak or behave in a way that is congruent with the someone you hope to
How would that person act in response to an unfair of false accusation?
How would that person demonstrate the qualities she claims to have
Consider these and then act accordingly.
How you feel is up to you. What kind of a day you have is up to you. You
Mindfulness in The Spare Moments
Molly Dahl, M. Ed., CiPP
Don’t squander your down time. These days, it seems like many of us are
running on tired. We’re exhausted. We’re short on time. Our sleep isn’t
what we would like it to be. We have few precious moments when there is
nothing to do and nowhere to go.
When you do have a few spare moments – the doctor is running a bit
behind and you have to wait in the reception room, or you’re so far back
in the line of traffic at the red light that you get to sit through two
of them, or your child is late coming out of school and your car’s
idling at the curb with you waiting for your kid – consider yourself
blessed. You have empty time!
As tempting as it is, leave your phone alone. Don’t worry about what you
think you’re missing on social media. Turn the radio off. Put away
Look out the window. See the sky, the trees, the sunlight. Nature
rejuvenates us. Let the silence spread through you and nourish you. When
you get lucky enough to have a few minutes of down time, come down –
emotionally, mentally, physically. Be still. In stillness you are
refreshed. In the hush of free time, you are revived.
Silence is to the soul what water is to the body.
Allow the silence. Drink it in. Luxuriate in your 5 minutes of forced
waiting in line. There’s nowhere else to go and there’s nothing else to
Please and Thank You
Molly Dahl, M. Ed., CiPP
The Simple, Mindful Things
Sometimes the simplest things are the most impactful. Sometimes, these
simplest things are the easiest to abandon in the extreme business of
our daily lives. And sometimes, these simple things are the very things
that lead to authentic, positive change. Little bits at a time.
Simple. Simple, easy behaviors that demonstrate deep inner awareness and
deep awareness of others. Easy behaviors and words that create civil,
even friendly, relationships.
A wave in traffic as someone let’s you in is such a small gesture. Yet
it smooths the stress of the rush hour chaos. A foot on the break to
allow someone else in says “Please, you go.” Try it. Today. Tomorrow.
Begin to pave your way through life honoring and acknowledging the good
things and people already in your life by expressing gratitude. And
begin to cultivate an aura of friendliness wherever you go by simply
including “Please” and "Thank you" in your lexicon. Then watch your
world transform into a place you actually like to live. Two little
words. A whole lot of magic!